Rescue Me.......

A few years back, I did something really...um..interesting. The radio station that I listen to on the way to work was featuring a psychic as a special guest. I called in to ask her what was up with my life. I was in a period of transition and felt somewhat lost.

"you have a big sign on your forehead that reads 'I will rescue you'. All the people that you have been in relationships with up to this point...see this in you and they believe it. You believe it too. STOP trying to rescue people. Take care of you FIRST...then care about the people you love. NOT rescue...CARE FOR."

I know what you're thinking...she must have gotten information from the pre screeners..they tipped her off. Nope. I gave them a fake name and I wasn't even asked what I wanted to talk about. She hit the nail on the head.

I do still have that sign imprinted on my forehead, and I'm working to correct it, but occasionally I'm reminded that some people are beyond redemption. No matter how much they want it for themselves...they just can't do it.

I have a friend...well call him RON. Ron has problems....of a CHEMICAL sort. When I first met him...we got along great..no romantic thing..but we became great friends. He's a christian and has a great belief in the almighty. He also has a powerful addiction that he's trying to fix. I have been trying to be supportive.

We make plans.....he calls and changes them....then calls and changes them again...then never actually shows up. This happens time and again. Each time, I know what the REAL story is. Some 'friend' of his shows up with a little 'chemical enhancement' and he parties with this person all night..all weekend...all day.

I can't rescue him. I can't really rescue anyone....and it's really hard when you genuinely care for someone and want them to succeed and they seem so earnest and you want to believe them. Where do you draw the line? when do you give up?

You don't. You DO quit enabling them. You DO try to be supportive ...without supporting.

Just take a deep breath. Put the oxygen mask on yourself first..THEN you can help others.